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Getting Married or Cohabitating Later in Life

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Sometimes life gets in the way of love, keeping people from “walking down the aisle” until later in life. If you’re middle-aged or older and are planning to get married or cohabitate with your partner, there are some potentially awkward issues you should probably talk about to make sure you’re on the same page.

Later-in-life marriages often come with strong tethers to people, places, accounts, and things that can complicate decisions and actions—whether it’s your ex-spouse, kids, grandkids, aging parents, debt, personal goals, or something else. It’s a good idea to be sure your trusted partner knows where you stand on these—and that your partner is willing to share similar information with you. Find a comfortable place to sit, chat, and share information about your assets, your goals and expectations. Also, talk about income, bills, and who will pay what—and when—while you’re living together.

Bowling Green State University’s National Center for Family & Marriage Research reports that 28% of 45-to 64-year-olds, and 31% of those 65 plus—are remarried.1 Whatever the reason, there are both advantages and disadvantages to getting married later in life—or to cohabitating, which increased 75% for those 50 and older between 2007 and 2017, according to Pew Research.2

The potential benefits of marrying later in life include:3

  • Problem solving: Your experience and maturity give you and your partner better problem-solving skills and a stronger understanding of the importance of working together to accomplish goals, and overcome difficulties.
  • Combined incomes: Combining incomes and assets—and potentially selling or renting your home or your partner’s home—can create a healthier financial situation.
  • Tax benefits: Getting married gives you and your partner substantial financial and tax benefits. Also, married spouses can receive an unlimited amount of assets from their spouse without having to pay estate taxes.
  • Longer lives: Single men and women don’t stay as healthy or live as long as their married counterparts, according to a study published in the American Journal of Epidemiology.4

The potential problems that can be created by marrying later in life include:5

  • Lack of communication and financial agreements: Some older adults are reluctant to share information about their assets out of concern that the information may influence their partner’s decisions—including about their own healthcare if they become severely ill or incapacitated. For this and other reasons—including the potential for a “gray divorce”—a prenuptial agreement and a well-thought-out estate plan can give you confidence.
  • Higher medical costs: Medical expenses rise as we age, and you will be responsible for your spouse’s debts. Eventually you and/or your spouse may need to go into an assisted living/nursing home.
  • Responsibilities for children from previous relationship: If one spouse has children from a past relationship, the other spouse might have to share the financial responsibility, as a couple.

Other Considerations for Older Couples

A growing number of older couples are choosing to cohabitate instead of get married. Between 2000 and 2020, cohabitation among couples older than 50 quadrupled.6 Reasons included their desire to pass their assets to their kids, and to be able to retain Social Security benefits or alimony from their former spouse.6

Because of potential financial complications for older couples, it’s a good idea to talk to a trusted advisor, accountant, and/or estate lawyer to help you and your partner navigate and avoid potential stumbling blocks that could send you down the road to “gray divorce.” According to the American Bar Association, couples 50 years old and older currently make up a 25% of all divorces, and those 65 and older make up 10%.7

Questions about this topic? Contact First Financial’s Investment & Retirement Center by calling 732.312.1534.  You can also email mary.laferriere@lpl.com or maureen.mcgreevy@lpl.com

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1. AARP, June 2, 2023: Financial Checklist for Remarrying After 50

2. Pew Research Center, April 6, 2017: Number of U.S. adults cohabiting with a partner continues to rise, especially among those 50 and older

3. and 5. Senior Care Lifestyles: The Pros and Cons of Marrying Later in Life

4. NBC News, August 18, 2011: Single people may die younger, new study finds

6. Time magazine, September 19, 2021: Why Older Couples Don’t Need Marriage to Have Great Relationships

7. American Bar Association, March 9, 2022: 70s are the new 50s: How Grey Divorce Differs from a Typical Divorce

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Managing Money as a Couple

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It’s February, and Valentine’s Day is right around the corner. While this might be the month to celebrate love, it could also be a good time to go over your finances with your Valentine. When you marry or share a household with someone, your life changes—and your approach to managing your money may change as well. The good news is it’s usually not so difficult.

At some point, you will have to ask yourselves some money questions—questions that pertain not only to your shared finances but also to your individual finances. Waiting too long to ask (or answer) those questions might have some consequences. It’s also good habit (even if you’ve been together for a long time) to review these questions annually as well.

How do you propose setting priorities? One of your first priorities should be simply setting aside money that may help you build an emergency fund. But there are other questions to ask. Should you open joint accounts? How should you title assets that are owned by both of you?

How much will you spend and save? Budgeting can help you arrive at your answer. A simple budget, an elaborate budget, or any attempt at a budget can prove more informative than you realize. A thorough, line-item budget may seem a little over the top, but what you learn from it may be truly eye-opening.

How often will you check up on your financial progress? When finances affect two people rather than one, statements can become more important. Checking in on these details once a month (or at least once a quarter) may keep you both informed, so that neither one of you have misconceptions about household finances or assets. Arguments can be avoided when money misunderstandings are resolved through check-ups.

What degree of independence do you want to maintain? Do you want to keep some money separate? Some spouses need individual financial “space” of their own. There is nothing wrong with this approach.

Can you be businesslike about your finances? Spouses who are inattentive or nonchalant about financial matters may encounter more financial trouble than they anticipate. Watch where your money goes, and think about ways to pay yourself first. Set shared short-term, medium-term, and long-term objectives.

Communication is key to all this. Watching your progress together may well have benefits beyond the financial, so a regular conversation should be the goal.

If you still have questions, or you’d like more information on how to best manage your finances as a couple – we’re here to help. You can call or email the financial professionals in the First Financial Investment & Retirement Center at 732-312-1534, mary.laferriere@lpl.com or maureen.mcgreevy@lpl.com

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Setting Financial Goals as a Couple

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Valentine’s Day is next week, and what better time of year than to sit down with your partner and talk about your financial goals as a couple and make plans for your monetary future?

Talk

The first step in achieving your financial goals together as a couple, is to talk to each other. Communication is one of the most significant components of any relationship, and discussing your finances together is super important. As you’re both talking, you’ll each want to mention the goals you both have for the two of you, your individual financial goals, and be sure to jot everything down or save them on a note in your phone or on the computer.

As you’re discussing, be sure you’re each respectful of what the other is saying. If you don’t understand something, ask questions – but you never want to make your partner feel bad about one of their goals or that it’ll never happen. Your financial situation as a couple is something you’ll both need to communicate about, see what’s realistic and what isn’t, and find ways to achieve your goals together.

Prioritize

Once your financial goals have been agreed upon and written down, it’s time to prioritize the order of how and when to achieve them. An important component of prioritizing your goals together is to decide which ones are must-haves, and which ones are nice-to-haves. For example, if your family is growing and you no longer have the space to live in a condo – buying a single family home would be a must-have goal. An annual cruise vacation is a nice-to-have. You’ll both also want to do the same with your individual goals.

Another part of prioritizing is how long it might take to reach your goals. Short-term goals are typically ones that can be completed in under a year (for instance, buying new appliances for your kitchen). Long-term goals typically take anywhere from 3-5 years or more to accomplish (boosting your retirement savings or renovating your home). Once you’ve prioritized your list, you’ll want to choose the first goal to achieve. There isn’t a right or wrong way to do this, just as long as you both are on the same wavelength.

Plan

Now it’s time to plan out how you’ll achieve your financial goals together. The best way to do this is to be specific about what the goal is, measure the goal and track your progress, decide on a way to attain your goal, be realistic about if it’s possible to achieve this goal, and set a time for when you’d like to have the goal completed by. Once your goals are planned out, you can officially begin to put money aside and start working on achieving them as a couple.

Check in on your progress

Once your plan is set and you’ve begun working on your financial goals, it’s important to keep track of your progress and potentially reconfigure your plan if you need to. You’ll want to do this at least once a month if possible. For example, maybe you both have realized you didn’t save as much money during a certain month and didn’t meet your monthly savings goal – but when you went back and reviewed your expenses, you saw that you went out to dinner or bought takeout several times a week. For the next month, try to plan to eat at home instead of dining out. You can meal prep together and plan all your meals in advance so you don’t get tempted to order out if you both come home too tired to cook one night. It’s okay to make mistakes and readjust your budget together – the most important thing is that you are both monitoring your spending, communicating, and changing your financial habits for the better moving forward.

As always, the team at First Financial can help you better manage your money and reach your financial goals. Call us at 732.312.1500 or stop by any of our local branches.

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Tips for Discussing Finances in Your Relationship

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You’ve probably never heard your partner say, “let’s talk spreadsheets.” However, all couples have to broach the money conversation at some point in their relationship. Talking about finances with your partner is never an easy conversation, but it should be done as frequently as possible – especially if you’re living together, getting married, or starting a family.

According to a recent study, couples who talk about money regularly are happier in their relationships than those who discuss it less frequently. Overall, money plays a big role in relationship problems – which can lead to breakups or divorce if not managed the right way.

The good news is that talking about money can make your relationship stronger and even help you get closer to your partner.

When to start talking about finances with your partner

There’s no cut-and-dry answer for when to tackle the money conversation, but you should at least have brought it up before the relationship turns serious. Before you move in together – you’ll need to understand what your partner earns, how much they can contribute to the household, and what their other expenses look like. Before you get married, you’ll want to know about your partner’s debt and what their credit score looks like. This knowledge can help build equity in relationships. Plus, their financial status will impact you should you both wish to obtain a loan for a bigger purchase down the road.

Start small

Don’t start your first date by asking, “how much do you make?” Instead, trickle in financial topics by asking them about their goals in life. This could be anything from, “What’s your dream retirement age?” to “Where do you see yourself living in the next ten years?”

Experts recommend asking “what if” questions to not only learn about their financial priorities but also their values. Some icebreakers could include, “If you won the lottery, what would you do with the money?” and “If you had to choose between a high-paying job with high stress or a low-paying job that you love, what would you pick?”

The more you talk about finances in this way, the easier it will be to talk about their financial situation over time.

Be understanding

Everyone comes from different backgrounds, values, and financial limitations. If your partner’s parents didn’t teach them effective money management skills, it doesn’t mean they can’t learn. Talking money makes people vulnerable, so it’s important to listen and be sympathetic too. Responding with anger will cause your partner to not feel safe having this type of conversation with you, leading to a lack of trust and transparency.

You also don’t want to just bring the conversation up out of nowhere, give your partner some advanced notice. A great example of this is simply saying, “I’m trying to get better about budgeting and want to talk about finances more regularly. Could we plan to talk about it this weekend?” Having a conversation goal in mind is even better. If you’re planning a romantic trip together, also plan a budgeting conversation so you can save up for your getaway.

Be consistent

It should be a regular part of your routine to talk about finances. When paying your bills, plan to do a monthly financial check-in with your partner. The goal isn’t to micromanage your partner’s spending habits, but rather to see where you both land on your goals and where you can improve. Over time it will become a regular part of your relationship, and will help make you both feel like you’re on the same team.

If you need some help with budgeting and financial literacy, look no further than the team at First Financial. We can give you recommendations and advice based on your financial situation. Contact us to get started, or stop by your local branch to speak with a representative today!

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